Friday, January 20, 2012
Nowdays, it seems to me that foreplay is something that is not often talked about. When my friends and I are discussing our sex lives, we talk about the sex, nothing before hand. (Ok, apart from the occasional nosh that was so good it needs to be mentioned!)
Obviously, there are the partners that you are with that you feel foreplay is not needed. You know, the partner you have amazing sex with so you think the before hand play is not needed. Or maybe you are not fully interested in the person so you skip the foreplay and rush for the fuck, knowing you need the thrill of the orgasm, not caring who it is with.
A short period of flirting and a slow build up on anticipation surely leads to more exciting sex? Of course it does. There is nothing like some good old fashioned seduction to get your partner really turned on.
Let's not forget, it is harder for a woman to get aroused and turned on before sex. Give a guy a wink and a flash of nip, he instantly has a boner. Do that to a woman, she will laugh and stay as dry as a nun. Female bodies need help conjuring the lust and lubrication required for intercourse.
So, I have some tips to keep the before hand play interesting, leaving you wanting more and having both you and your partner lusting after the intercourse..
1) Talk Dirty:
Dirty talk is the opportunity to really push back all the boundaries and stops. Through dirty talk you can stimulate your partner’s major senses: sound, sight and touch. Lovers use dirty talk as a way of expressing their wants and needs in the heat of the moment. If done right and at the right time, dirty talk is one of the hottest things you can do for your partner. Obviously there is the soft dirty talk where you compliment each other and what they are doing and then there is the hard-core dirty talk, where you say what you want and when you want it (and where!)
Girls, guys love it when you compliment the size of their penis so try and do this while noshing him off. Lick him like a lollipop and tell him you love it when he is hard (in a sexy tone) and he will be wanting to put it elsewhere, not just your mouth.
Guys, don't get too vulgar. Women like the dirty talk, sometimes just as much as you do but if you get too vulgar and gross, it can be a bit off putting.
Whatever you do, do not say words that make you feel uncomfortable. Try to be yourself and say the words that come out naturally. Just say what comes to mind. So, in order to sound spontaneous and really sexy, you have to wait for the right moment because if dirty talk isn’t done right and at the right time; then prepare to deal with laughter and giggles.
2) Play Rough:
There is nothing wrong with a bit of rough play. When it comes to foreplay, most women crave a slow seduction, but guys often like the more forceful approach. Men get turned on when women get a little animalistic and make maximum pleasure the goal. They take it as a sign of lust and an indication that she’s as into it as he is. To him, playing rough isn’t about bondage necessarily. Guys just want a woman who can take the reins.
Whatever you do, do not go overboard. You do not want to end up with a black eye, or in A&E! (This happened to a friend of mine!!)
3) Watch Porn If Needed:
Porn can be a great way to get you both in the mood. (Guys, do not put it on without asking your girl first, some women are not into adult entertainment!)
Put on something that both of you can enjoy (preferably other couples having sex and something tailored to women), and lie naked with each other while you watch it. Remember that a caress here and there is perfectly acceptable, even preferable. If you see something kinky that you'd like to try, make a comment about it to see your partners response, which will give you an indication of whether or not they are game. The idea here is to get your imaginations going.
4) Tantalize With Touch
When in the bedroom, any kind of touch is bound to get you both turned on. Don't go straight for the obvious. Girls, instead of heading straight to his penis, suck on his earlobes or lick his inner thigh, exciting him and making him want more. Head to sensitive parts of the body that will make him wriggle and moan. Guys, don't think we all like it when you put your head down there and stick your tongue in like a washing machine, or tweak our nipples like you are tuning a radio. We are the same as you, we want to be turned on. A girl will love it if you can make her wet without even putting your hand near her vagina. Best place to get a girl going is her neck. Soft, seductive licks and kisses are the one.
5) Use Props:
There are so many items that you can use to excite eachother. Household or bought. For example, head to your fridge and see what you find. Something like whipped cream can work wonders. Girls, spray this on your intimate parts and get your man to lick it off.
Feathers or flowers (for those of you who have seen 40 days and 40 nights you will know what I mean with the following..) A soft touch up and down her body can make a woman cum. Knowing you are watching her get excited by this will make her enjoy it even more.
Sex toys. Vibrators, bullets, anal beads, edible underwear - all can bring you dangerously close to climax.
Ice. Girls, put an ice cube on your mans chest, letting it drip everywhere. Put it in your mouth too, then give him a blow job. It feels good because his nerves and sexual pleasure can be turned on and become very sensitive to extreme cold.
And there it is. Five easy ways to drive your partner insane with foreplay. Of course, you don't have to do them all in one day. Keep things lively, fun and erotic. One last time: every partner is different and if you're attentive, you should be a success.
I would love to hear what you all like to do in foreplay, if you enjoy foreplay and any tips you can share.
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